Apart from the worst of being ostracized, another thing is imperative to be prevented in a situation where you belong to a group -the feeling of being alienated. In reality, there are a lot of people that apparently have identity issues. These issues specially results to being out of place in a society and eventually casted out. If there’s anything else worth fearing more, it would be the idea of not belonging.

Be it known that self-determination isn’t simply just an idea of a right but a goal to anyone who wishes to blend-in quite well. Social recognition doesn’t come right knocking into your door just because you want it to. It’s more like of a place to get to, a destination. But to get there would also mean you have to kickass and shred things from yourself. The road to social acceptance is long, winding and rough. It requires you effort to be flexible. And flexible we mean a lot of things. There are a lot of ways to do so. Here are some:

1. Sure that you have to be yourself, but not everyone wants that. There’s a cliché that tells you “people should love you for the way you are”, more than half the time that is something your mom tells you. Being someone isn’t just about being looked-up to here, but being someone that you want to be that is looked-up to by others. Admiration comes to those people who wanted to be more than just being themselves. They meet people’s expectation and that’s the only time they become achievers or what not. And the best way to do about this is when you begin to emulate a character perceived to be better than you are and by “better” we mean, someone “they” like. Know what these people want. As to what this article is all about –fitting in.
2. Be a people person. Nothing inspires acceptance more than to keep those people you want to accept you happy. If you want them to believe that you are a man of many proportions, make them. Your character must vary from time to time, depending on what group you are currently mingling with. It’s ok to be yourself as long as their fine with it. P.S. Always smiling would also be a helpful tip.
3. Nobody has to understand you every time. Just make sure you understand them more and you would not have a problem. Temperament should be more than half leaning to their set conditions. The principle “bend like the bamboo tree” applies to this. When the occasion when you are in a deadlock argument with your group, rises, unless they are many of you and less of them (a sense of democracy), by virtue of majority wins, bend along.
4. Always want world peace. Never get yourself into an argument. Sure you have to defend your moral and what not, but it will be a war for some other time (Say when your church gets overrun by some anti-Christ pandemonium). Debates sure are intellectual and fiery it catches wrath. Make sure you don’t do that on times your fronting with someone superior (especially physically superior).
5. Be cool.

It might be that the reality is both bitter and sad but that’s just about it. Though, the article could sound a bit disheartening, but when looked at closely it is actually a positive reinforcement. The goal is not to get alienated and by that we take on any means necessary.

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